What Constitutes a "Person with Presence"—A Discussion of a Different Structure, Not Confidence or Actions

「Someone with a strong presenceWhat kind of person is "___"?

Just by being there, they change the atmosphere. They don't have a loud voice or draw attention with their actions. Nevertheless, everyone naturally becomes aware of them and relies on them.

Many media outlets list the characteristics of influential people like this:

Confident. Poised. Unwavering. Positive. Highly communicative.

This is a correct observation.

But this is Description of results andStructure description It is not.

Why imitating actions won't get you there

Please think about it.

Have people who tried to be confident and succeeded in being confident truly gained a sense of presence?

Will standing tall with dignity truly make you command presence?

In many cases, the answer is No That's right.

Rather, the more you consciously try to "be confident" and "be assertive," the more that very consciousness creates an unnatural tension, which in turn weakens your presence.

This is a presence that It cannot be created from the accumulation of actions. it means that

Imitating their traits won't achieve it. Changing my behavior won't achieve it.

This is because something is activated at a layer prior to the action.

Heidegger's Dasein

Philosopher Heidegger describes human existence as "Daseincalled.

being" rather than simply "existing"To exist in a specific way」。

Some people exist in a state of anxiety.

Someone exists in a monotonous daily life.

Someone exists in their original state.

What's important here is that these are not differences in behavior, butDifferences in modes of existence It is that.

People who are charismatic aren't necessarily taking special actions.Existing in a special way。

The thinness of the veil of self

So, what is that "way of being"?

There is a hypothesis.

That is,The ego seems to be weakening. It's structured like that.

Normally, people are covered by their ego. "I want to be seen this way," "I want to be evaluated this way," "I must be this way" - these ego constructs cover the contact surface between the person and the world.

For someone with a strong presence, this cover is thin.

If the cover is thin, the person who interacts with that person will not be able to see the cover, but Something flowing through that person will come into direct contact with

This is the structural identity of the phenomenon called "presence."

Presence refers to the person's emits It is not.

Through that person Flowing The situation where others touch things.

The paradox of trying to increase your presence

From this, one important paradox emerges.

The more you try to increase your presence, the more it diminishes.

Because the ego, which wants to increase its presence, becomes thicker as a cover.

Conversely, when the ego weakens, the sense of self Automatically starts up。

The person didn't do anything. They didn't intend to.

However, because the cover is thin, what flows through that person reaches others directly.

This is why articles on how to increase your presence in the world often don't produce the expected results.

The article prescribes "how to add a cover," but what is truly needed is "how to dilute the cover."

You cannot arrive at the structure of subtraction through addition.。

The structure of someone who is easy to get through

Someone with a strong presence isn't necessarily a strong person.

That is,Someone easy to get along with That's right.

A person whose defenses have thinned, allowing the flow of the world to pass through without distortion.

They are not projecting an image for their own sake.

It's just that the cover is thin, so something is getting through.

And, unconsciously, people are drawn to that "something they resonate with."

Please delve deeper into this structure.

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