Why is loneliness scary? The value of loneliness nurtured by time alone

Many modern people feel afraid of being alone.

I can't put down my smartphone, I cram my schedule full, and I constantly seek out others to fill a "sense of being alive." But—few realize that this "busyness" has prevented them from hearing their own inner voice.

And that consciousness that creates that busyness itself represents a deep-seated psychology of avoiding loneliness. I want to delve deeper into that reason.

Loneliness is a device for reclaiming one's own outline.

I realized that my busyness was drowning out my own voice.

As you continue to meet people, your own outline becomes blurred by their influence. Someone else's values get mixed in, someone else's anxieties become contagious, and circuits that try to meet someone else's expectations become activated on their own. Solitary time is a device that filters out those distractions. What remains after chipping away is your true original form.

Although they don't seem connected at first glance, this distortion of oneself by others is what leads to the recognition of loneliness as something to be feared.

Solitude functions as a "filter," "catalyst," and "energy source."

The time when three functions occur simultaneously

One is its function as a filter for distracting thoughts, as described above. In a life of constant social interaction, we unconsciously absorb others' noise. Solitary time peels away these layers one by one.

Secondly, its function as a catalyst for thought. In solitude, one converses with oneself. This inner dialogue is what changes the depth of one's thinking. We speak to ourselves, are ignored, receive unexpected words, or often, no words come to mind at all. It can feel like barren and wasted time. Nevertheless, we meticulously bring ourselves back to a zero-base, sometimes agonizing in front of a notebook. We continue to think. And then become one with nothing. As this habit accumulates, abstract concepts begin to take on clear outlines.

The third is its function as an energy source. Continuously consuming adrenaline in a noisy environment drains true energy. Something that is recharged in the quiet solitude—that is creativity, the source of our true strength.

Why do modern people fear loneliness so much?

If your emotional resolution is low, you become afraid of being alone.

Many people who are afraid of loneliness struggle with recognizing their own emotions effectively. When alone, unprocessed emotions surface. Because facing those emotions is frightening, they seek external stimuli to fill the void.

But by confronting it, you finally understand the true nature of your fear. What you thought was "fear of the present" might actually be "fear stemming from past experiences"—a common pattern, but for some, this realization is the first step toward moving forward.

Even if it's just once a week, intentionally make time for solitude. Go somewhere alone and disconnect from your phone. Sit in the darkness at night and delve into yourself. What you find in that time is often what you truly desired. There's something hidden in solitude that you would never discover just by spending time with family and friends.

And I want to regain the purity of life, rediscover my true self, and awaken my true abilities.
It was then that I finally understood why my past self had been so excessively afraid of facing loneliness and facing myself.

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